Comments on O/our Journey in D/s: A Submissive Male?

However, falsely portraying yourself in a manne...

2007-02-14T05:27:00.000-08:00
However, falsely portraying yourself in a manner just to get a partner will have disastrous results for both people involved,

This certainly is true for all lifestyles of which men and women both take part. I've met women who identify as a Domme, but really are just playing the fantastic odds that the BDSM community provides. Perhaps because they've had little luck in the vanilla arena.

Most of us know where our compatibilities are and it doesn't take long to figure out who's not compatible, regardless of the label they wear.

with articulate details of how the mentioned Do...

2007-02-08T19:24:00.000-08:00
with articulate details of how the mentioned Dommes were not behaving in manner that he felt was ‘genuinely’ dominant

He's not seeking a domme; he's seeking a fantasy.

And look - that's okay for him. We want what we want. But it's important to learn how to recognize what we want, what our wants actually are.

I've got my fantasies, too - I'm sure that most of us do. But as one matures, one should learn how to distinguish the fantasy from the attainable.

For some men their kinks are the vanilla male's fo...

2007-01-22T22:08:00.000-08:00
For some men their kinks are the vanilla male's focus on, say, breast size. They seek a specialized form of sexual fulfillment without regard to the other person.

And lots of men don't think to distinguish between acting out a submissive role and actually being submissive. I see no fault in the former. The problem is that they don't actually read what many women make it is clear that they are looking for. They are so caught up in what they want that they approach the wrong women.