Monday, March 12, 2007

Training Strategies – Control of the Body

It is a sad fact that many submissives, who are so adept at caring for others, neglect their own wellbeing at times. It is part of a Mistress’ task in training such a person is to instill good habits in matters of food, sleep, and exercise, and not to encourage self-destruction. If the Mistress notices that the submissive is negligent in matters of self-care, she should take steps to remedy the situation. This can be accomplished from within the scene. For example, the Mistress may wish to reward the submissive for taking care of himself by allowing him to perform foot worship for Her or whatever worship She may desire.

The Mistress may also like to control the sub’s sleep, speech, and excretory functions, but great care should be taken not to exhaust the sub or endanger his health with such games.

The question of sexual abstinence for sub’s frequently arises. Assuming that the sub has turned this right over to the Mistress during negotiation, I believe that a Mistress may act with impunity in restricting a sub's sexual pleasure. A state of sexual hunger drives slaves to better performance, and the promise of release is a powerful stimulant. If the Mistress finds that the slave is unable to resist the temptation to masturbate, She may want to invest in one of the fine chastity belts or "cock cages" now available.

I am aware of no concrete evidence that sexual abstinence causes any problem other than frustration. Remind the sub that his sexual desire, like all else, is your property and should be dedicated to your pleasure, not the submissive.


At 7:09 pm, Anonymous F said...

Some have suggested there is a connection between emission and prostate health. But this is mostly speculation. And can be dealt with via prostate massage which can induce ejaculation without orgasm.

At 12:17 pm, Blogger Mrs. Claudia said...

I agree with you 100% that denied sexual release makes a better submissive. Caring for a sub is much more than just playing with him or her in the bedroom. Right now I am having to monitor my sub very closely to make sure he doesn't over do it after having a medical procedure Tuesday. Thanks for your blog.

At 2:34 am, Anonymous Hans said...

Hi - yes caring is very much an issue and much neclegted unfortunately. I have found that a good thing to do is to make self-care a task for the sub: i.e. "care for your Masters' or Mistresses toys, including yourself". This puts their mindset in a different yet often more effective state, since it is something they recognise. Also, it clearly showes the slave that self-care is actually something that pleases the dominant (most slaves - males especially - feel that by being neglected they are verving their dominant).

Hans (webmaster

At 6:13 pm, Blogger Encountered said...

This is interesting. I have to admit I haven't thought about this enforcing of "self-care" before.

Thank you.

At 6:08 pm, Anonymous The Profit Princess said...

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At 5:48 am, Anonymous 9661ts4o7 said...

Somewhere on ur blog u mention how once ur pleasure and delight, while receiving oral worship from spirit, made him come without touching himself.If this were repeated consistently, and all other methods of release denied to him,then it will not be long before he develops a mental and emotional linkage of his release with ur pleasure.A submissive's release then becomes an almost reflex action totally dependant on mistress's pleasure.His pleasure is no more than a mere spinoff, or a secondary consequence, of the mistres's orgasm which rises to to be the one and only focus and target for both of them. After all it is in line with a d/s relationship that the subissive,badly needing release, should beg his mistress not for his release but for the privilege of pleasuring her.

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