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There are always a few questions that float around in My mind in regards to the submissives that I speak with online who request online service or desire to meet Me. They are always to eager at first, wanting to make a good impression but will that eagerness reveal itself to be not as previous presented when it comes to a real time situation?
I have found in the past that having an online submissive rarely works for Me. While I enjoy developing friendships with them, the requests to have them on cam playing with themselves for My apparent enjoyment leaves Me a little flat. Unless I have had actual experiences with them, I find no true enjoyment from watching them do whatever they think I desire of them. (I can do this for you Mistress. Would you like to see that?) Personally, I want to be the one doing the play, making them squirm and feel like the submissive's they truly are. Also having an online sub demands a lot of online time which I do not have. Since attention is what an online submissive craves, when I can't be available to them (even though it should be the other way around), they become bored, disillusioned and move on. So much for online servitude.
As many Mistress' can attest, an eager sub will offer the moon. I have been sent many lists of what the sub likes and all the sexual services they can offer in so called anticipation of My needs. However, a submissive with an attitude of service asks what the Mistress desires and does not assume what she would like based on their personal needs. A service sub enjoys pleasing a Mistress in general ways, such a sweeping the floor or cleaning the bathroom. A foot slave will drool over the thought of worshiping those precious toes and feel fulfilled by doing so. Does the service sub or any other type desire reward? Of course, but that is always up the Mistress' discretion as to what level of reward is given. A submissive must prove worthy of such rewards. Sometimes, just giving the submissive positive attention, which they all crave is usually enough.
Is it fair to have expectations that exceed the limits of the sub? Can one sub really fulfill all the desires of the Mistress & is it fair to even expect that?
While it is expected to push and test a submissive's soft limit's, some limits cannot be pushed and that can lead to stress within the D/s relationship. I believe that no one person can fulfill every expectation in a relationship, and to think so is unrealistic, especially in a D/s one. This is why that I believe that having at least one other submissive works well in the D/s setting, at least in a play partner capacity.
At present, I have a primary male submissive, a secondary female submissive and a submissive t-girl play partner. Each brings something different to the D/s dynamic which one person could not give. Sometimes it can be challenging dealing with the different personalities and schedules, but then everyone does that every day in regular vanilla relationships so it's really not so different. The pro's definitely out weight the cons. Each relationship while similar, are so different which makes exploring the realms of D/s that much more intense and deep.
In one of the groups that I belong to, a conversation thread of what is in a name in regards to numerology came up. While I took time choosing the name that I would wear in the BDSM community, I didn't consider this aspect of the name I choose. There are many online sites available that can provide quick calculations. When I put My name in, below are the results that were pulled up. After reading it through, I've come to realise that I intuitively picked a very powerful and truthful name to wear. As I consider Myself a gentle Domme, I found the the numerology surrounding My name to be most appropriate.
There are 12 letters in your name.
Those 12 letters total to 46
There are 4 vowels and 8 consonants in your name.
Your number is: 1
The characteristics of #1 are: Initiating action, pioneering, leading, independent, attaining, individual.
The expression or destiny for #1:
A number 1 Expression denotes the skilled executive with keen administrative capabilities. You must develop the capacity to be a fine leader, sales executive, or promoter. You have the tools to become an original person with a creative approach to problem solving, and a penchant for initiating action. Someone may have to follow behind you to handle the details, but you know how to get things going and make things happen. You have a good mind and the ability to use it for your advancement. Because of these factors, you have much potential for achievement and financial rewards. Frequently, this expression belongs to one running a business or striving to achieve a level of accomplishment on ones talents and efforts. You have little need for much supervision, preferring to act on your own with little restraint. You are both ambitious and determined. Self-confident and self-reliant must be yours, as you develop a strong unyielding will and the courage of your convictions.
Although you fear loneliness, you want to be left alone. You fear routine and being in a rut. You often jump the gun because you are afraid of being left behind.
The 1 has a natural instinct to dominate and to be the boss; adhering to the concept of being number One. You do not have to be overly aggressive to fulfill your destiny.
Your Soul Urge number is: 6
A Soul Urge number of 6 means:
With a number 6 Soul Urge, you would like to be appreciated for your ability to handle responsibility. Your home and family are likely to be a strong focus for you, perhaps the strongest focus of your life. Friendship, love, and affection are high on your list of priorities for a happy life. You have a lot of diplomatic tendencies in your makeup, as you a able to rectify and balance situations with an innate skill. You like working with people rather than by yourself. It is extremely important for you to have harmony in your environment at all times.
The positive side of the 6 Soul Urge produces a huge capacity for responsibility; you are always there and ready to assume more than your share of the load. If you possess positive 6 Soul Urges and express them, you are known for your generosity, understanding and deep sympathetic attitude. Strong 6 energy is very giving of love, affection, and emotional support. You may have the inclination to teach or serve your community in other idealistic ways. You have natural abilities to help people. You are also likely to have artistic and creative leanings.
Your Inner Dream number is: 22
An Inner Dream number of 22 means:
You dream of being a master organizer and a builder of monumental projects; of guiding a truly huge endeavor. Your secret fantasy is to think big and imagine what could be done for the world. You may also dream of the huge rewards.
I was fortunate to pick a name that was so unwittingly suited to My nature. It is wise to put time and thought into choosing a name for a submissive to make it a true representation of themselves.
A while ago, My girl and I had the pleasure of attending a local night club that hosts fetish nights 2 Saturday’s a month, called Sin City. While I had attended these fetish nights before, it was the first time for My girl to join Me; to see and been seen within the BDSM community. We both looked forward to the evening with much anticipation.
Being corset night at the club, I wore a black velveteen mesh corset with a pvc mini skirt and black lace up, pvc platform boots. She was in a ruby red corset with a black mini and thigh high, black leather boots with collar, of course. While I do not have this girl collared yet, I felt that having her wear one while we are out in the community would show that she is under consideration by Me and that she would be under My protection for the night. We were now ready to have some fun!
We arrived early not only to avoid the line up, but to have this inquisitive girl check out her surroundings so she could feel more comfortable. I picked one of the few couches in the club to lounge on and people watch as the patrons start to arrive. With DJ Pandemonium spinning a fantastic mix of tunes and the variety of people wearing their fetish best, the atmosphere soon became electric. The thumping beat mimicked the vibe and excitement that we were both feeling.
After a couple of drinks, I decided it was time of mingle and view the small dungeon area that is set up in the upper level. It is equipped with an ‘X’, spanking bench, rack and a rigged up, old pool table for light knife play or whatever may come to mind. It is monitored by a couple of dungeon masters with a small viewing area to enjoy the public play. While My girl was very intrigued with watching others play, not to mention both of us feeling a heightened erotic response, I choose not to play with her this evening. After all, I didn’t want to overwhelm the girl with sensation overload being new to the club and the scene in general.
Wandering around the club, we chatted with a few people, as a noticed a few of the regulars in attendance. An occasional play partner of Mine was there and I made introductions between him and My girl. He is such a warm and friendly person, she soon noticeably relaxed within his presence. As we moved on to the downstairs area where a different DJ mixes tunes, it was time to have another drink and to join the frenzied dancing on the floor. After a few songs, we went back up to the main dance floor, where there are props and a small stage to dance on, if someone wants to really get their groove on. The vibe was incredible; bodies moving to the sound and flashing lights, all of us pumping and grinding to the rhythm as one. My girl felt welcomed and part of this dynamic, alternative community.
As the hours grew late, we had to gather out things and make our way home. Hot and sweaty, glowing with the energy of the club we made it back to My place for a sweet night cap of spankings, bondage and light play. I could think of no better way to end the night or spend the evening. It was a defining moment in our relationship, one we both will remember for some time to come.
~ The feather brush of a pair of lips on the nape of the neck, a sigh of breathe that sends shivers across a breast, a finger tip tracing the contours of the flesh, the delicious scent of a woman, and tantalizing tastes for the tongue ~
On a chill spring evening, I had the pleasure of meeting up with one of My kinkster friends for an impromptu get together. We had been speaking quite frequently and had recently met up at a club for our first a public play session. On this evening as we chatted online, our conversation turned to more of what we both enjoyed about BDSM and our relative experiences within it and the local community. After a while, we decide to hang out and continue the conversation in person.
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